Dealing with Misogynistic Men: Three Approaches

By Kaniz Fatma, New Age Islam 25 May 2024 The Best of Three Approaches to Dealing with Misogynistic Men Main Points: 1. Misogynist men often treat women poorly, leading to a cycle of mistreatment and violence in the home. 2. Intolerant or losing patience women often respond to their husband's misbehaviour with increased misbehaviour, leading to a cycle of mistreatment, violence, divorce, and negative impact on children. 3. Women with internal weaknesses, tolerant of husbands' bad behaviour, but damaged in personalities, struggle to connect with positive traits and strength, leading to a lifeless robot existence, fake smiles, and fear in homes, affecting their children. 4. The third approach involves rare, daring, patient, wise, and courageous women who gently address weak men by addressing their flaws rather than engaging in combat or rivalry. 5. The third approach may be more beneficial for women dealing with inappropriate husband behaviour and potentially solve their issues. -------- A woman is a shoe for the feet; she should be maintained in her place and not put on the head, according to some misogynist men who were raised in an environment that taught them this lesson rather than respect for women. The way these men treat their wives is not at all admirable. However, women who depend on men for their financial security acknowledge that being mistreated by their husbands is inevitable and that they should put up with it all. When a husband acts inappropriately, a wife typically has three approaches: The First Approach: Women who are intolerant or who lose patience easily take this approach. These women respond to their husband's misbehaviour with even greater misbehaviour. They repay their husband's one transgression with ten more. For as long as they live with their spouses, the homes of these women remain models of misery, and because of their intolerance, they are soon divorced. Even if they stay together, the home these women share becomes a battlefield. This has an impact on their children as well. Their daughters grow up to dislike males and avoid marriage because they witnessed their father mistreat their mother, while their sons do not learn how to respect women. This approach perpetuates the cycle of mistreatment and violence in the home, affecting the overall well-being of the family. The Second Approach: The women who choose approach number two are internally weak. It seems that they tolerate every bad behaviour of their husbands silently. However, in the process, their personality is damaged. They are unable to connect with their positive traits and personality strengths, resulting in their existence as lifeless robots. Their joy is insufficient, and their smile is fake. There is always a sense of fear in the homes of these ladies. These women implant in their children their own inner horror. As a result, their children deal with this concern in real life as well. Third Approach: These are extremely uncommon women in our culture. They are daring, patient, wise, and courageous. When these ladies encounter a man with a weak personality who abuses rage and shouting to control a woman, they develop a plan to rectify him rather than run away from this weak man. Such women gently attempt to eliminate the flaws of these men rather than engage in combat and rivalry with them. These are the confident women with a strong self-belief. These women are aware that their home is harmed simply by fighting. For this reason, when their husbands lose their cool, these ladies demonstrate patience and say nothing. But at the appropriate moment, she completes the process of reforming her husband and is frequently successful in turning him into a decent husband by rationally outlining her point of view. As a matter of fact, these women instil in their children a healthy sense of balance and respect for their fathers. The path of these women is undoubtedly challenging, but it will not last forever. With time, they will be able to get over their challenges and manage to transform the home into the ideal family. Remember! When a woman observes her husband misbehaving, she has three approaches. She has the freedom to select any of them, but her decision will impact the rest of her life. It will benefit a lady more if she takes the third approach. This method might be the solution to all of her problems. ----- Kaniz Fatma is a classic Islamic scholar and a regular columnist for New Age Islam. URL: https://www.newageislam.com/islam-women-feminism/misogynistic-approaches/d/132383 New Age Islam, Islam Online, Islamic Website, African Muslim News, Arab World News, South Asia News, Indian Muslim News, World Muslim News, Women in Islam, Islamic Feminism, Arab Women, Women In Arab, Islamophobia in America, Muslim Women in West, Islam Women and Feminism