Men Are Not Always Cruel and Women Are Not Always Oppressed

By Kaniz Fatma, New Age Islam 27 July 2023 Min Points: 1. Allah created unique skills and qualities in all living beings, with intelligence, trade, and artistic abilities. 2. Reform discussions are constructive, but discretion is needed. 3. It's important to recognize that both men and women need reformation, as three recent events demonstrate. ------ The All-Mighty Allah created the sky, the earth, and all living beings. Every species has unique, particular skills and qualities. When we think about it, we see that if Allah Almighty gave some species-particular characteristics that made them distinct, He also gave some other beings different attributes. It becomes obvious that these qualities and skills vary when one considers what constitutes a human being. Some are intelligent, others have trade or artistic skills, others are employed in the workforce, and others run their own businesses. They demonstrate their talents and expertise through their abilities; some have a greater capacity for this than others. Allah created man and woman from the same human race and gave them distinct sexual characteristics. In the Holy Qur'an, it is made very plain that men and women are each other's comforters and clothing. Both parties received specific and dissimilar obligations towards one another. If a couple is married, then they both have certain rights, and in a similar way, the rights of parents, brothers and sisters, relatives, and neighbours have also been established to ensure the happiness of the human life system. Islam has given women specific rights and obligations towards men, as well as specific rights and obligations for women. But when these two fail to respect one another's rights, trouble in the home begins to develop. The departure from religious instruction is the primary cause of this decline. One hears and reads a lot about reform talk in this area, and it is a very constructive process that ought to take place and be beneficial. On this matter, however, discretion is required. There are many feminist movements taking place now, stories about how women are oppressed are frequently told, males are constantly held accountable for everything, and reform initiatives are typically saved for men rather than women. The topic of reforming women is barely mentioned. I disagree that men are always to blame for the breakdown of the marriage; I think that women are frequently to blame as well, even if they are often unaware of it. This has been observed in numerous instances. Additionally, she files fabricated charges against her husband and every member of his family, endangering not only her own life but also the lives of her husband and his family. There is a lengthy number of these instances, and it would be challenging to mention them all. As a result, even an oppressed guy is heard in our society sighing and stating that a woman's voice is heard but a man's voice is not heard, as if he does not even trust the judicial system. Reforming bad men is unquestionably a good thing, but it's also important to change bad women. Allah Almighty intended women to be a delicate species, yet in modern culture, some women have invented tales of brutality and cruelty towards their spouses that make one's soul quake. In order to convince you that males are not always oppressors and women are not always the targets of oppression and that both men and women need to undergo reformation, I will share with you a few recent events. A heartbreaking occurrence just happened in Tunisia. A brutal wife kills her sleeping husband by setting him on fire. According to media sources, Tunisian police detained a woman in the Raoued neighbourhood after she fatally burned her sleeping husband. According to a security source, the wife doused her sleeping husband with petrol. According to the Tunisian newspaper "Sabah," the woman stated that her husband had been disloyal to her and had an affair with another woman. According to sources, "On July 8, a call from the Civil Protection was received indicating that a house had caught fire in the Raoued district and a person had been found inside with terrible burns all over his body. He was rushed to the hospital in critical condition where he succumbed to his injuries. They continued, saying that the judicial police teams started looking into the wife after finding a severe burn injury on her leg and that she later admitted to killing him by dousing him in fuel and lighting him on fire. The wife claimed to have gleaned access to the husband's alleged girlfriend's WhatsApp conversations. When he was asleep, she set him on fire, instantly murdering him. The woman's claim that she started a fire to kill her spouse is still being looked into. You must be thinking about how such violence can occur while Islam has established good rights for both husband and wife and recommended them to coexist in harmony, safety, and tolerance. The obvious answer is that it is a result of inaction and working against Islamic precepts. Islam is the subject of debate every day, and there are conversations about changing its laws. Someone seems to be waiting in the wings for a chance to capitalise on a Muslim event and prolong it over time. The reports of additional horrors are subsequently ignored. Islam never justifies cruelty or violence; rather, the offender is held responsible for his own actions. Aside from Muslims, people of other religions also indulge in evil. A similar situation to the one previously described took place in Telangana's Nirmala village on July 17, according to Urdu Leaks. According to the story, a husband had expressed scepticism about his wife's remarks, and when he became enraged, the wife and her mother violently murdered him. According to the information, Mankem, 40, of the village of Nirmala, and Jamuna, 38, got married 15 years ago. Mankem visited his in-laws' residence on Sunday night. After Mankem had slept off, Jamuna and her mother beat him mercilessly with sticks on his head and other body parts. Mankem succumbed to his wounds and passed away right there. An investigation was launched when a case was filed based on the father of the deceased, Bhumia, who filed the complaint. The third terrible incident happened in Korutla, Telangana. According to the Urdu Leaks post, which is dated July 10, a husband killed himself because he believed his wife's rebuke humiliated him. Naresh, a 25-year-old inhabitant of Korutla, married Lakshmi five years ago, according to the source. They also have two children. The two of them often engaged in conflict. The wife reprimanded him after the two of them had an argument on Sunday night. Naresh became depressed as a result and committed himself by jumping into the nearby agricultural Baoli. The role of women is oppressive in the three events stated above. But it is a big pity that one-sided conferences and programmes are created today, sometimes trying to create the idea that women are always oppressed and that all problems and oppression are the fault of males. It has a lot of detrimental impacts on our culture, and the next generation of women views men negatively. Therefore, when it comes to women's rights, we need to reform both men's and women's rights. Men's rights and marriage reform should be explored as well so that both partners can learn to fulfil their obligations and experience true love in a marriage. ------ Kaniz Fatma is a classic Islamic scholar and a regular columnist for New Age Islam. 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